The power of words and thought

Last night was rough. In fact, the past month has been rather difficult.  Isn’t that always the way the way December is?  Full of expectation and despite our best attempts disappointment creeps in.  However, when the new year fell upon us, I was full of hope and faith for the coming year.  Even though I’ve been doing my best to stay positive in my life despite a lack of money, business, and meaningful new connections in my life, I was hopeful.  But fighting a lifetime of guilt, negative thought and un-deservingness takes a toll on a girl.  Especially when she’s already laid up with a fever and gut-loathing cough.

So last night was a rough night.  Opting to skip sex for the night in favor of being able to breathe easily, I laid there as Warrior quietly and swiftly fell asleep. And that one negative thought came blasting through the silence of my room.

You’re not a good person, Bella. 

Of course it’s not true….is it? But i’ve believed it for so long, allowed it to influence so many of my relationships and allowed it to fashion a life of self-sacrifice that I hardly notice when it comes into my head.  It’s easy for it to come into my head.  And despite all the safety nets I’ve constructed and defense mechanisms to combat this message it just kept blaring through my head.

You don’t deserve these people in your life, Bella.

There it went again.  Compounding and adding to the ill-settled silence in my room.  Soft breathing from Warrior next to me.  2:37 a.m.  Despondency started settling in.  No matter how much I tried to imagine myself as deserving and loved I couldn’t see past the hypocricy I knew I was being accused of miles away.  I had been passive-aggressive.  And while I have my reasons for how I acted, I knew there was no going back.  But instead of standing to how I felt, standing to what I did and accepting the present as evidence of my strength, I started succumbing to fear.

I could go on and on about the things I tell myself in the middle of the silence.  I could go on and on about this history…not just where it came from but who it has impacted.  But the fact is, for all my attempts at positive thought lately, I still have to wrestle with this darkness in a meaningful but healing way.

After I ran out of the room and cried in our garage for an hour, I came back to Warrior’s loving arms.  He wrapped them tight around me and reminded me that I am beautiful.  I am loved.  I am intelligent. I am intuitive.  And despite what I think my actions over the past few weeks have shown my courage and my strength.  I had him repeat those to me over and over until I fell asleep crying on his chest.

I woke this morning from a detailed dream of a wedding and decided that 2012 is the year that I achieve balance in the different areas of my life: mind, body, soul and heart. These all need to be aligned.  And the only way I can really do that is to confront the voices of my past that keep me stuck in a never-ending trail of un-deservingness, deprivation and starvation.  I experience all of these things on an intimate level in each area of my life.  Whereas before I was willing to allow it to dictate my actions and keep my loved ones pushed away, today I am willing to face it, confront it, heal it and finally move forward into a realm where my thoughts and words are creative and not as destructive as they once had been.

This is the resolution this year…to feel healthy in my mind, in my heart, in my body and in my soul.

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