The Courage to Bern: how being outed influenced my non-traditional endorsement

sanders-2016-feel-the-bernEarlier tonight a friend of mine posted this article criticizing the #FeeltheBern fervor drowning out all of those Hillary supporters who are just as passionate about their candidate.

I took an hour to pen the following response while my kid waited patiently for supper. I decided to post it here because I needed a place to expand on these ideas that I have felt too inhibited from proclaiming to a wider audience. In the 10 years since the event described below, I have changed my view on politics and what I expect from our system.

And here I talk very frankly about being forced to create new ideas about myself and about the concept of loyalty. Take from it what you will, but it is my story and my reasons for believing we are on the precipice.

The choices that we make today for ourselves and our generation matter more than ever. 

Call and Response

Thanks, B. for posting this and adding your voice to the mix. But I thought I would share a little of my own viewpoint. My issue with Hillary is that after years of being active in politics and the Democratic Party I find her solutions to be too much of the same and I don’t expect any different results. I am a progressive Democrat and that used to mean something until it got co-opted by every politician who wanted to sound fancy but secretly favored and defended their own power.

walt_disney_quote5I don’t know if you know that once upon a time I was a legislative advocate who was just as much of an idealist as Mr. Sanders. I worked for a non-profit doing education reform in a highly hostile legislature that was dominated by those who wanted nothing more than to see our issue fail–and to see me fail. I remember being so intimidated and scared being asked to write and develop and lead the lobbying effort on a bill that many, including my own boss,  deemed to be a pie-in-the-sky assignment. We were going to run it that year, get people used to me as the new lead for our issue and then after it failed we would make some minor changes, have another year of meetings without the burden of the term-limited fundamentalists and then run it again.

It was a little two page bill with two strike-outs and two small additions. I was told it couldn’t be done. In a year that voters were rejecting a similar but broader measure on the ballot, I had no chance of passing this little bill. I had no business thinking that someone as young and as me could pull it off. I had fierce opposition and I had vowed to do my job without relying on manipulation or dirty tricks. It scared me to death and I had many a panic attack over our legislative agenda that year.  I was told more than once to let it go and do something more practical and pragmatic.

But I pulled off the impossible that year. And I did it with only three “no” votes, all of them were reasonable objections to the content of the bill. I had conversations. I reached across the aisle and listened to the opposition, listened to their points and addressed them as honestly and as directly as I could. I didn’t compromise but I convinced them of the value of the legislation I was bringing to the table. That wasn’t my only win that year either.

I was the girl on fire. 

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Don’t Underestimate Resistance to Change

Democrats had branded me a traitor and literally slammed the door in my face whenever I would approach them about our issue.  They unilaterally hated my issue so much that a few of them didn’t hesitate to make personal attacks, dragging my kids’ lives into their perverse loyalty games during committee hearings or negotiation sessions. Instead of well-constructed arguments, I was fighting against a system of complacent inequalities that were being defended by the people I thought were my heroes. Personal autonomy and innovation can fuck off. If we just blindly followed the platform, we’d be saved, goddamn you.

They demanded such blind allegiance that the only way to get the votes was to remind them that we have more in common than they thought. I appealed to individual ideals for education equity and social justice. I made well-reasoned arguments. Even Republicans were impressed that I had the courage to stand against my party. It was an uphill battle in hostile territory, but I still did it. I did what they say couldn’t be done. I passed nearly everything in our pie-in-the-sky agenda that I had developed with dignity and integrity. I earned the respect of my peers and had even been asked if I’d thought of running for office.

And then I was punished man-spanking-wife_2

That same year was also the year I was outed – just a few precious months after all that success. I can’t possibly describe how devastating this was, not just because of the violation of my privacy and ideals, but because it came from the very people I was helping.

The people who outed me did so out of blind party loyalty. They wanted to out me for my “liberal agenda” which also included outing me for my sexuality, my relationships. It was so hurtful and painful. And sadly too ironic since I was promoting their agenda, I was the progressive Democrat putting herself on the line to do what was right, not just because I was paid to do it, but because I believed in it.

When I was outed the Dems didn’t do anything to help me. They shut every door in my face, pretended I didn’t exist, treated me as if I was radioactive, a liability to even meet with me. Some even openly mocked me. My “story” lingered around the halls for years, the gossip growing larger and more ridiculous each time someone whispered it. For years, even my own state rep literally ran the other way whenever she saw me. (For her whole term, as rep, my mom started trolling her town halls to ask her why she treated me that way – she never answered). And only those with the courage of conviction and vision to have stood with me during that uphill battle were the only ones who were there for me to help me pick up the pieces.

Whether it was a Dem or a Republican who outed me, it doesn’t matter. I was punished for something: my courage, my conviction, for being Latina, for daring to explore my bisexuality, for succeeding, for daring to do things differently in both my professional and personal life than the pre-ordained formula favored by the elite.

I was out of work, broke and suicidal. After applying for what felt like hundreds of jobs, I landed only three interviews over 8 months. My spirit was broken and I felt abandoned by the very system and leaders that I had trusted for so long. The blood, sweat and tears I had given them were apparently worthless.

This fundamentally changed my view of “business as usual” politics and the idea of blind party loyalty. I took great personal and professional risks to advocate for this issue. Those who outed me cheapened those victories and tarnished my credibility. They made me pay for my sins – for sharing a larger vision for relating and taking an honest stand in a hostile political environment.

Make Way for the Anointed Leaders

Joffrey_2x01bAll of this soured my taste for the way we establish our platform as Dems.  I started to require more of our leaders: to be thoughtful, to be discerning, to be courageous, to be empathetic, to be a voice for their constituents as much as an active listener to those who dissent.

I’ve witnessed a very disturbing trend in our party politics. There has been a growing invasion of what I call entitlement politics. And it’s not what you would think. It’s party leaders at mostly low to moderate level of influence who gain a little bit of power by running caucuses, hosting candidate fundraisers, and generally playing the gatekeepers of information, playing favorites to the point of excluding progressive solutions. These folks feel entitled to be the next rep or senator because of some magic formula that somehow anoints them as the heir apparent to the incumbent when term limits come. Lick enough stamps, knock on enough doors and plan enough fundraisers and we’ll hand you a seat on the ticket. I know, because the same was offered to me – and I was naive enough to feel flattered by it.

I don’t throw my support behind someone just because they’re a Dem, just like I don’t automatically love someone just because they’re also a woman or Latinx or a geek or poly or sex-positive. I demand more for the price of my support and trust.

We all should demand more of our leaders.

When I’ve questioned these entitlement candidates about why I should vote for them, I get answers like “I worked for X candidate” or “I was elected to school board and this is the next step”. Why is that a valid qualification? Sure it’s a resume line, but tell me, what do you believe?

So I pull out my pet issues and see if they have anything resembling an informed position.  No? Okay….

Or in the absence of that, do they at least have an openness to considering another viewpoint? Only if it’s attached to a donation you say?…hmmm…

And if that fails I am left to only judge them on their ability to construct a sentence or memorize the party talking points. And even then, the results can be disappointing.

We need to demand more than anointing a leader just because they did their time licking envelopes and waving signs. Sorry to sound so pejorative, but for some of these candidates I’ve met that’s all they are: fluff and circumstance. I am most impressed with substance and character. What wins me over is someone who answers the question they are asked without equivocation or evasion, by addressing it with substance and understanding, even if I don’t like the answer.

During my caucus, those party elite, the anointed kings and queens of their sad little hills, are the ones who stood for Hillary. And the majority of the people who were coming to their first caucus ever stood up for Bernie.

That speaks volumes to me.

An answer worth giving

I have worked in politics for too long and have seen too much. We are on the crest of a revolution and I see the need for a leader who will recognize a problem and listen to people who have ideas on how to fix it. I desire a leader who has the courage to put themselves out there for a cause that may be unpopular. I want a leader will speak up for the people and give them a voice. I desire a leader who can inspire those who are often shifted to the sidelines of our process to get up and pay attention.

Bernie has stood against the unpopular position so often that when I heard he was running I thought he didn’t have a chance. And while I was wary, I wasn’t ready to crown Hillary as the nominee yet. He convinced me that he just might be able to pull off the impossible. And that is worth the risk, because I know from first-hand knowledge that it can be done.

But what solidified it for me was the debate in Flint, MI and this gem of an answer from Bernie:

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Clear, visionary, unpopular (kinda), direct. He didn’t give conditions on his support or opposition to fracking. He didn’t play to the crowd. He didn’t care that he pissed off the oil & gas industry. This fearlessness is what I want in a leader right now. We need to make changes and we need someone who won’t back down from that.

And yes, leaders do need nuance to their policy positions. Yes, leaders need to listen to people who are impacted by proposed policies and changes. Yes, leaders need to consider the evidence. And it is completely valid to change your position on an issue once you’ve become convinced of a different viewpoint. But we equate changing your mind to all-out calculation or betrayal.

I don’t hate Hillary or her supporters. We each make our choices and have our own priorities. For me, I have lost faith in the party elite and Hillary and Bill Clinton are as close as we get to modern-day political royalty (although not the Kennedy-level Democratic royalty the prior generation had).  I have watched the Democratic political machine tear apart dissent and revolution, focusing only on stopping Republicans instead of creating good, sound policy. Using a lopsided superdelegate system that allows the party elite to be the gatekeepers demonstrates an appalling lack of understanding of what our future will need for leadership.

Simply put, I don’t want a candidate who is anointed just because everyone thinks they can (or should)  win. I want a candidate who will step forward with vision and purpose. I want a candidate who will fight for what’s right, who doesn’t give up hope on that vision just because it’s not politically easy. I want a candidate who aims to earn my support, not one who expects it. I want a candidate who has a vision of the world as it ought to be instead of what is politically expedient for it to be.

Clinton is a fine person and a very smart woman but not the leader for where I want our country to be at this critical time in history. Her presidency wouldn’t be a disaster. I’ll support her if she wins the nomination, but I want her to earn it, not have it handed to her.

But consider for a moment that maybe Bernie’s ideas seem unrealistic only because we’ve been so deprived of political leadership and imagination for so long that the contrast in speech, thought and vision is like someone turning on the color in a black and white/Republican-Democratic movie. It’s scary at first, but then we realize how much better the world looks in the technicolor of hope.

dorothy color

Posted on March 30, 2016, in Current Events and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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